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40 Lessons Learned

11/5/2020

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40 days ago, I had an idea to write a lesson a day about some things I've learned in my 40 years, here on earth. As I have spent time in reflection, I am grateful for all my seasons because I am a better person for having LIVED! I hope you will find some wisdom in the following list.

​I look forward to many more years!  Here's to 40!
  1. Never take your day for granted. Make it count.
  2. Changing your routine can bring joy. 
  3. Hold on to your dreams and don't let anyone tell you what you can or cannot do.
  4. Having faith and keeping the faith are two different things. One requires intentional work.
  5. Valuing myself and what I have to offer is a part of embracing who God wants me to be.
  6. I matter.
  7. Sometimes activity can make us feel like we’re making a difference. This isn’t always the case. Synergy is where it’s at. 
  8. There is nothing wrong with regrouping and starting over.
  9. Expect the unexpected with God. He delivers!
  10. Don’t be afraid to believe. It’s never a waste of time to do so.
  11. Be careful not to be in motion but going nowhere. (Double negative intended.)
  12. Once you find your people, thank God.  They will have your back and hold you up. 
  13. Sometimes it takes effort to breathe but you still gotta do it. It’s about survival. 
  14. Don’t let your insecurities keep you from sharing who you are with the world! You are a gift!
  15. Try to enjoy the good times as much as possible and make good memories. 
  16. If there is hope, there is possibility.
  17. I can’t be anyone else; I can only be me. 
  18. Be gracious especially to yourself.
  19. Love hard but if/when you realize the relationship is harmful to you, it’s ok to let go. 
  20. Don’t focus on your haters.
  21. Support others but don’t forget to invest in your own self.
  22. I am worth it. 
  23. Go beyond what people say and look at what they do; their actions or non-actions will display their hearts. 
  24. When you’ve given friendships all you have and it still fails, walk away knowing that you gave it your all.
  25. Writing is just talking on paper. “Talking” is therapeutic. 
  26. Stop saving your China for a special occasion. Use them just because. 
  27. Greatness isn’t something that happens overnight it’s established through a lifetime of living.
  28. Just because you aren’t racing doesn’t mean others aren’t competing with you. 
  29. Don’t let fear keep you from adventure. You will miss out on life.
  30. Let God write your story. 
  31. I may not know everything but that doesn’t mean I should ignore checks in my spirit.
  32. Even if I feel lonely, I’m never alone.
  33. Imitation isn’t always flattering. Be unique!
  34. God is a God of righteousness and justice. You can’t take one without the other. 
  35. When you “don’t see color,” you don’t see me.
  36. Forgiving may be difficult but forgetting can be even harder. 
  37. Life is beautiful whether I believe/feel it or not.
  38. It doesn’t matter how much time has elapsed, true friends can pick up where they left off. 
  39. Surround yourself with people who want to see you winning, succeeding, and happy in life. 
  40. Sometimes, you just have to wait and see what happens. ​ Photo Credit: Casha Mosley

10 Comments
Bettie H. Kingsberry Kingsberry
11/6/2020 01:32:05 pm

40 years of wisdom, thanks for sharing your beauty.

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Francemise Kingsberry
11/7/2020 04:43:05 am

Thank you, Bettie! ❤️

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Tammy I.
11/7/2020 06:32:54 am

These are all really great! My fave is #29 Don’t let fear keep you from adventure. You will miss out on life. Thanks for sharing these nuggets of wisdom and here’s to 40 indeed!

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Francemise Kingsberry
11/8/2020 08:26:06 am

Thanks, Tam! I learned this the hard way!!! Yes, let's take risks! Love you.
Francemise

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Canice
11/7/2020 10:12:56 pm

This year alone has been so crazy and all of us that are turning 40 we will never forget this year but your words have definitely brought some sunshine to my heart.

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Francemise
11/8/2020 08:38:05 am

Hey Canice!!!
Thank you for your comment! This 40th year is definitely an unforgettable one!!

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Hassan Kingsberry link
11/8/2020 08:15:52 am

My Love,

Not only are these points simply true, I’ve watched you live through dealing with and grappling to discover each. I love you deeply and I pray your 40th birthday was as close to what you wanted as possible considering we couldn’t go to Paris. You are simply beautiful and remember that always. As you continue to be the genuine, considerate person you are, protect your personhood and peace and you know I will do the same. You are to be celebrated, lived, honored, and cherished! ❤️

Your Husband,

Hassan

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Francemise
11/8/2020 08:40:18 am

Dear Hassan,
Thank you for your love and for making this birthday the best one yet. I am so grateful that I get to do L.I.F.E. with you and that you always affirm me! I LOVE YOU!!!!!

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Gene-Clairie Saint-Ulysse
11/9/2020 04:07:16 pm

Thank you for sharing these gems with us. Numbers 14 and 29 spoke to me the most. I look forward to learning more from you through your writing. Here's to 40!

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Francemise Kingsberry
12/14/2020 02:27:10 pm

Thank you sharing with me. ❤️ I appreciate you.

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